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Empowered Healing: Debunking Myths About Mental Illness, Trauma and Justice

There’s a lot of stigma around mental health disorders. The media often sensationalizes violent acts by labeling the perpetrators as “mentally ill” or “traumatized.” This portrayal is not only misleading but deeply harmful. In reality, people with mental illnesses are far more likely to be victims of violence than perpetrators. They often possess greater empathy due to their own struggles, making this media narrative an unjust misrepresentation—one that perpetuates ableism.

This stigma might be convenient for maintaining the status quo, allowing discriminatory systems to flourish by blaming trauma or mental illness for violent acts, while ignoring the systemic issues that breed these problems. For example, domestic terrorists and mass shooters are often painted as “lone wolves” with mental disturbances, rather than confronting the patterns of privilege and hate motivating their actions. This article will debunk these misconceptions by exploring the differences between mental health disorders and criminal behavior, the role of psychopathy in criminal profiling, and how restorative justice offers a truly effective solution to crime. This is because restorative justice, just like criminal profiling efforts, are not intended to explain away or sympathize violence but to put an end to violence, breaking the cycle that our prison system often exacerbates.

Understanding Psychopathy, Sociopathy, and ASPD

Mental illness and violence are often linked unfairly in the justice system due to confusion around what constitutes a mental disorder. Psychopathy, often used to describe violent offenders, is not a mental illness but a set of behavioral traits used in criminal profiling. These traits—superficial charm, lack of empathy, manipulativeness—help law enforcement understand and predict the behavior of violent offenders in order to stop them. These traits are not rooted in trauma nor do they explain, or justify, the perpetrator’s behavior.

Sociopathy and Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) are also misinterpreted. ASPD is a diagnosable mental disorder recognized in the DSM-5, characterized by a persistent disregard for the rights of others, impulsivity, and tendencies toward deceitful or illegal behaviors. Even then, the majority of individuals with ASPD are not violent. Sociopathy, although not an official diagnosis, is frequently used interchangeably with ASPD. However, sociopathy is thought to involve more erratic, less calculated behavior than psychopathy. It is important to understand that neither sociopathy nor ASPD is caused by trauma, and most individuals with these conditions do not engage in violent behavior. There is a major difference between being a flawed individual that makes bad choices that cause others pain, and being a toxic individual that maliciously causes trauma.

The Harmful Effects of Stigma

It’s vital to understand that trauma and mental illness are not the causes of criminal behavior. Misinformation creates damaging stereotypes that often prevent people with mental illness from getting the help they need, and instead allow them to be funneled into the prison system. It is far too often that people who have experienced trauma, especially those that are people of color, are arrested unjustly and end up in the system.

This is a system that increases crime, as it functions like a revolving door. It sweeps up disenfranchised, often nonviolent individuals, putting them into environments where violence becomes a means of survival. Large corporations profit off their free labor, while individuals who need support are exposed to dangerous influences, including hardened criminals and people with psychopathic tendencies. These individuals perpetuate cycles of violence within prisons, grooming nonviolent prisoners to do the same. When they’re released, they will have a criminal record and be shut out from most opportunities. The parole system often sets them up to fail, sending them right back into the system. This environment only worsens crime, turning those who were once harmless into desperate people who must survive by any means necessary.

The Role of Restorative Justice

Restorative justice, on the other hand, breaks the cycle of violence. Contrary to misconceptions, restorative justice isn’t about letting offenders off easy—it’s about healing and accountability. It empowers survivors by giving them back a sense of control and ensuring offenders face up to the damage they’ve caused. The focus is on repairing relationships, restoring what was lost, and making amends, not through punishment alone, but through meaningful action. Offenders are required to contribute to healing and transformation, and this active participation in the process leads to real reform. It’s a path forward that not only repairs the harm done but also gives offenders a chance to rebuild their identities and social ties, reducing future harm.

This kind of justice is not about excusing or diminishing consequences—it’s about ensuring those consequences lead to something positive: a decrease in crime, a healing of wounds, and a society where we truly hold each other accountable in ways that foster growth and restoration. In this way, restorative justice reduces violence, brings peace to survivors, and creates safer communities for all of us. Survivors of crime deserve this level of justice and restoration.

Empowering Yourself in the Face of Misrepresentation

Restorative justice provides a framework not only for addressing crime but also for challenging how we think about accountability, healing, and community safety. Just as it rejects the notion that putting people in cages can solve violence, we must reject the harmful myths that mental illness and trauma are inherently tied to criminal behavior. While a perpetrator of violence may have experienced trauma, committing acts of violence is always a personal choice. These choices largely affect those most vulnerable, including those with mental illnesses.

If you live with mental illness, you deserve empathy, not judgment. Just as effective solutions to crime come from focusing on healing and reform rather than perpetuating cycles of violence. Your experiences add depth to your perspective, and while mental illness can present challenges, it also grants you incredible strengths—such as the heightened awareness and quick thinking many people with anxiety experience. Never let society’s ignorance define you. Anyone who tries to associate your struggles with criminality or worthlessness is both uninformed and undeserving of a say in how you see yourself.

For those who’ve endured trauma at the hands of toxic individuals, it’s easy to spiral into questions of “Why me?” while trying to make sense of someone else’s harmful actions. Scientists are still not in agreement about what leads to malicious, psychopathic behavior. Sometimes, there’s no explanation—people do bad things, and harmful systems exist. But these things do not define you. You are the main character of your story. If someone made you feel small, it was a reflection of their insecurity, not your value. They were just a chapter, maybe just a sentence in your story, but you? You are everything.

As Alan Watts beautifully said, “Happiness was always about listening to your heart and following it wherever it chose to go. […] Happiness was always about being kinder to yourself and embracing the person you’re becoming. […] True happiness comes from within, and no external factors can define it. It was always about you.”

Be kind to yourself!

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The Power of Boundary Setting: Why It’s Essential for Your Well-Being

Boundary setting is one of the most empowering tools you can use to navigate life with confidence and comfort. It’s how you create space for yourself to thrive in any situation, making sure your needs are met and your energy is protected. By setting boundaries, you decide what you are willing and unwilling to contribute, and what you will and won’t accept from others. This choice is entirely yours, and it’s always valid.

Boundaries aren’t just for long-term relationships—they’re crucial in every aspect of life. You set boundaries with yourself when you establish a routine that supports your goals. You set them when you limit your availability for meetings or social outings to protect your time. You even set boundaries online by curating your digital space, choosing who and what deserves your attention by muting, unfollowing, or blocking accounts that don’t align with your well-being.

When it comes to relationships, boundaries become even more important. It’s not just about knowing what you need; it’s about maintaining those boundaries consistently and ensuring others respect them. Boundaries don’t mean controlling or imposing your desires onto someone else. It’s about standing firm in what works for you and walking away when someone doesn’t respect those limits. That’s a form of self-love.

Establishing boundaries doesn’t have to be difficult. It starts with getting to know yourself—understanding what makes you feel safe, respected, and valued. Your boundaries are unique to you, and that’s a beautiful thing. There’s no need to compare yourself to others because everyone’s needs are different. What works for someone else may not work for you, and that’s perfectly okay. It’s not about being the same; it’s about being true to yourself.

As you reflect on your own boundaries, consider these important aspects to guide you toward a deeper understanding of what works best for you:

1. Identify Your Needs

Start by self-reflecting on your emotional, physical, and mental needs. This requires a deep understanding of what makes you feel safe, respected, and comfortable. Ask yourself: What situations or behaviors make me uncomfortable? What values are most important to me? Self-awareness is the foundation of healthy boundaries.

2. Assess Existing Relationships

Evaluate your current relationships to see where your boundaries may be lacking or crossed. For example, think about times when you’ve felt overwhelmed, drained, or disrespected. Identify patterns—whether with friends, family, or coworkers—that contribute to these feelings. Acknowledge the relationships that uplift you and those that leave you feeling uncomfortable or used.

3. Clarify Your Limits

Establish limits based on your reflections. These can be emotional, physical, time-related, or personal-space boundaries. For instance, you may want to limit how much time you spend helping others if it drains your energy, or you may need to create physical space in your environment to feel focused or relaxed.

4. Practice Self-Reflection Regularly

Regularly assess how your boundaries are functioning. Boundaries are not static; as your needs and circumstances change, your boundaries should adapt. Take time to reflect on how well your boundaries are being respected and whether they need adjustment to better serve your well-being.

5. Learn to Say No

One of the hardest but most crucial parts of setting boundaries is learning to say “no.” Practice saying no in smaller, less challenging situations so you can build the muscle for bigger ones. Remember, saying no is about honoring your own limits and protecting your energy—it’s a form of self-respect.

6. Set Boundaries in Advance

When possible, communicate your boundaries before conflicts arise. For example, if you know that you need personal time after work, let those around you know that you’ll be unavailable during certain hours. Setting these expectations ahead of time can prevent misunderstandings and create a smoother dynamic.

7. Communicate Clearly

Once you’ve defined your boundaries, communicate them clearly and assertively. It’s essential to express your needs without guilt or apology. Be direct but respectful, focusing on how upholding the boundary improves your well-being. Clear communication prevents assumptions and helps others understand your expectations.

8. Surround Yourself With Supportive People

Build relationships with people who respect your boundaries. People who challenge or disregard your boundaries often benefit from your lack of them. Therefore, it’s important to have a supportive circle that values your limits and encourages you to maintain them.

9. Create Physical Boundaries

Physical boundaries are just as important as emotional ones. Set up environments that make you feel secure, whether that’s through creating designated workspaces, limiting physical touch, or ensuring you have time alone. For example, keeping technology out of your bedroom at night can protect your sleep quality and mental health.

10. Prepare for Pushback

People may resist or challenge your boundaries, especially if they’ve been used to you having none. It’s essential to set consequences for when boundaries are violated. For example, if someone keeps texting after you’ve requested space, stop engaging with their messages until they respect your request.

11. Reflect on “Hot Topics”

In conversations, certain topics can lead to discomfort or conflict. Reflect on the subjects you enjoy discussing with specific people and those you’d rather avoid. This will help you navigate sensitive topics and steer conversations toward healthier ground.

12. Allow Flexibility

Boundaries are guidelines, not rigid rules. There may be situations where you feel comfortable adjusting or temporarily relaxing a boundary, but this should always be based on conscious choice, not external pressure. Recognize when flexibility is appropriate, but also when it’s time to stand firm.

13. Seek Support

Building and maintaining boundaries can be challenging, especially if you face pushback from others. Seek support from trusted friends, mentors, or counselors who can help you uphold your boundaries and provide perspective during difficult times.

14. Practice Patience and Persistence

Establishing boundaries is a process that takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself as you learn and grow. Adjust your boundaries as needed and don’t be discouraged by setbacks. Boundary-setting is an ongoing skill that improves with continued reflection and effort.

15. Use Self-Reflection Exercises

Engage in journaling or other reflective exercises to reinforce your boundaries and check in on how well they’re serving you. These activities can highlight areas for improvement and offer insights into how you’re evolving in your boundary-setting journey.

These steps, based on reflective practices and clear communication strategies, can help individuals build and maintain healthy boundaries in various situations, ensuring they feel empowered, safe, and respected. As you continue this journey, remember that boundaries are about your well-being and should always align with your values.

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Overcoming Hopelessness After Trauma: Focusing on What’s in Your Control

Life after trauma can feel like an endless loop, especially when you escape one toxic situation only to find yourself in another. It’s a unique struggle—where you’ve done nothing to invite trouble, and yet, it finds you again. Even more disheartening is when the people or systems meant to support you—therapists, doctors, social workers, clergy members, or government officials—end up adding to the pain. This can happen for various reasons beyond your control, whether due to structural inequality, system failures, or a pervasive lack of positivity in certain areas.

As someone who’s been in therapy since middle school, I’ve seen firsthand how the people we turn to for help can sometimes fail us—deeply and repeatedly. I’ve been in rooms where therapists degraded me, talked down to me, and made wild assumptions about my character. They gaslit me about my own experiences, laughed at my trauma, and made me feel smaller every time I left. And for what? What good did it do me to recount those traumatic events with them? I began to feel hopeless—because if even the experts couldn’t help me, where did that leave me?

But here’s the truth: Even when we face such challenges, we have the power to reclaim our journey. In this article, I want to share how I’m learning to make peace with these experiences and, more importantly, how to shift my focus to what’s within my control. I believe deeply in our own capabilities—and I want you to believe in yours, too.

The Challenge of Trusting Systems That Fail Us

It’s tough to describe how disheartening it can be when the very systems or professionals you’re supposed to trust let you down. Therapists, social workers, and doctors are trained to support people, but sometimes they fall short. Sometimes, they even become part of the toxicity we’re trying to escape.

This can happen for many reasons. Structural inequality plays a big role—people from marginalized backgrounds often experience subpar treatment or discrimination, even from supposed “helpers.” Underfunded systems or burned-out professionals also contribute. In some cases, I think it’s just that the world around us hasn’t cultivated the right kind of support we need—especially in certain areas where positivity and empathy seem lacking.

In my case, I could feel my mental health worsening as I encountered therapists who didn’t listen, laughed at my pain, or just flat-out didn’t believe me. I realized that finding someone who could truly help me would be an uphill battle, especially since the most skilled therapists often don’t accept insurance, leaving those who do to fall into patterns of exploitative care. I began to wonder: What’s the point of trusting these systems?

Taking Back Control: Focusing on What You Can Change

So, how do we overcome this hopelessness? How do we rebuild a sense of control when the world around us feels out of our hands? The answer lies in exactly that—focusing on what is in our hands.

I’ve been through it. A lot. And it led me on a constant search for the one—the person or therapist who could help me heal and make everything better. I didn’t believe I could do anything myself, despite all the evidence of my capability. That mindset, that search for external validation and healing, was problematic. Therapy can sometimes amplify that feeling if we come into it believing the therapist has all the answers.

But the truth is, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to healing. Therapists are not all-knowing or all-powerful. They each have their own limited expertise. So, it’s crucial not to put them on a pedestal. It’s up to you to choose someone who’s a good fit and to walk away from those who aren’t. The real healing happens when you recognize your active role in the process. You are fully capable of doing that healing work—even without someone else’s help. You have more power than you realize, and focusing on what you can control is the first step toward taking it back.

Here are a few steps that have helped me regain my power, and I hope they’ll inspire you, too:

1. Set Boundaries with Service Providers

One of the most empowering things you can do is recognize when a service provider is not meeting your needs and walk away. If you feel disrespected, belittled, or gaslit, know that you do not have to stay in that dynamic. It’s okay to stop seeing a therapist, switch doctors, or fire a lawyer if they aren’t respecting your experience.

I know how difficult this can be—especially when it feels like your options are limited—but every time you assert your boundaries, you’re taking a powerful step toward reclaiming your life.

2. Educate Yourself

We live in a time where knowledge is at our fingertips, and that’s a gift. You don’t have to feel completely dependent on gatekeepers like therapists or lawyers anymore. With technology and AI, you can educate yourself on mental health techniques, legal rights, or coping strategies without waiting for someone to tell you what’s possible.

Many therapeutic approaches—like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or mindfulness—can be learned through self-study. There are countless free resources, apps, and forums where you can build your own toolkit for managing your mental health. The more you educate yourself, the better you’ll be at recognizing when someone in a professional role isn’t living up to what they should be providing.

3. Build Your Own Emotional Toolkit

Creating your own set of tools for managing emotions can be a game-changer. This could mean different things for different people, but for me, it includes journaling, practicing mindfulness, and using art and music as therapeutic outlets. Find what works for you, and build those habits into your daily routine.

Whether it’s meditation, grounding exercises, or something as simple as going for a walk, focusing on tools you can use anytime, anywhere, gives you a sense of agency. It’s a way to remind yourself that no matter what’s happening around you, you have resources within you.

4. Mindset Shifts: From Powerlessness to Empowerment

A big part of overcoming hopelessness is reshaping how you view yourself. Yes, systems fail, people fail, and sometimes, the world feels deeply unfair—but that doesn’t mean you’re powerless.

Start by reframing your thoughts around agency. Instead of saying, “I need this therapist to fix me,” try shifting it to, “I am actively participating in my healing process.” Instead of feeling dependent on outside help, start believing in your capability to grow and heal—on your own terms.

5. Find or Build Community Support

While it’s true that systems can fail us, we can never underestimate the power of community. Whether through peer support groups, online forums, or local organizations, there are always people out there who understand your struggles and want to support your growth.

These communities are often filled with individuals who have faced similar challenges, and they can provide solidarity, encouragement, and practical advice. If you can’t find a group that feels right, consider starting one. You might be surprised by how many people share your experience and are looking for connection.

6. Recognize the Small Wins

Healing doesn’t happen all at once. But it does happen, in small, beautiful ways. Every time you set a boundary, walk away from toxicity, or take care of yourself in a meaningful way, you’re making progress.

When the big victories seem out of reach, celebrate the small ones. Each step toward healing—no matter how small—is a reminder that you’re in control of your journey.

Conclusion: You Are Capable, and You Are Worthy

I want to leave you with this: Even when systems fail, even when people fail, you are not a failure. You are capable, worthy, and equipped to navigate your healing process. I know firsthand how hard it is to overcome hopelessness, but I also know how powerful it is to reclaim your sense of control, step by step.

With knowledge, boundaries, and belief in yourself, you can move forward—even when it feels like the world is against you. And remember, you are not alone in this journey. There are countless others who have faced similar challenges, and by sharing our stories and supporting each other, we become stronger.

Healing is not about fixing everything that’s broken. It’s about discovering the power that’s already within you.

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Healing from Childhood Trauma: What Forrest Gump Teaches Us About Self-Belief and Unlearning Toxic Patterns

Do you love Forrest Gump? Many of us connect deeply with the characters in that movie, especially when it comes to healing from trauma. Or maybe you’ve felt the weight of childhood trauma in your own life—experiencing anxiety, low self-esteem, or feeling disconnected from others. If that resonates with you, you’re not alone.

In Forrest Gump, Jenny’s character represents many people who’ve been shaped by childhood abuse. Unlike Forrest, who was raised to believe in himself no matter what, Jenny grew up in a toxic family system. Her father’s abuse became something her subconscious mind adapted to, even though she consciously knew it wasn’t right. This highlights one of the hardest parts of healing from childhood trauma: when abuse is normalized, it can take decades to fully unpack and understand.

Forrest vs. Jenny: A Contrast in Belief and Trauma

Forrest’s journey is marked by self-belief. Thanks to his mother, he grew up knowing he was just as good as anyone else. This belief carried him through life’s challenges—whether it was overcoming bullying, achieving success in sports, or building a career. Despite his intellectual disability, Forrest’s unwavering belief in himself allowed him to thrive.

Jenny’s story was much different. As a child, she endured abuse that shaped her self-image. Even though she wasn’t presumed to have any intellectual limitations like Forrest, the trauma she experienced took far longer to heal. Toxic family systems often do this: they convince you that abuse is normal, and the subconscious mind (or “lizard brain”) adapts to the chaos, even when the conscious mind knows better. As a result, Jenny spent much of her life struggling with self-destructive behavior, trying to escape feelings of worthlessness planted in childhood.

The Subconscious Mind: How Trauma Shapes Us

One of the most difficult aspects of childhood trauma is that it rewires our subconscious minds, making unhealthy patterns feel normal. This is why so many survivors of abuse find themselves in toxic relationships later in life—they’re unconsciously drawn to what’s familiar, even if they know better intellectually.

It’s the classic struggle between the subconscious and conscious minds: you know abuse is wrong, but because it was normalized when you were young, your lizard brain can’t easily distinguish healthy relationships from unhealthy ones. This can lead to confusion, fear, and anxiety that lingers long into adulthood, and it often takes an adult mind to truly understand how these childhood experiences shaped you.

Toxic people—especially those in positions of authority, like parents—can plant fear and confusion that takes years to unravel. Children are particularly vulnerable because they’re often convinced that the abuse they’re experiencing is somehow their fault or just how the world works. And this early conditioning can make the healing process a long and complicated journey.

Common Symptoms of Trauma: Do You Recognize These?

If you’ve experienced childhood trauma, you might relate to these common symptoms:

1. Emotional Reactions

  • Shock or disbelief: Difficulty processing or accepting what happened.
  • Fear or anxiety: A sense of constant worry, hypervigilance, or panic attacks.
  • Anger or irritability: Intense frustration or feeling on edge.
  • Sadness or depression: Persistent feelings of grief, hopelessness, or isolation.
  • Guilt or shame: Survivors may feel responsible for the event or guilty for surviving.

2. Physical Symptoms

  • Fatigue or exhaustion: Persistent tiredness despite rest.
  • Aches and pains: Unexplained physical pain, such as headaches, muscle tension, or stomach issues.
  • Changes in sleep patterns: Difficulty falling asleep, nightmares, or insomnia.
  • Changes in appetite: Overeating or loss of appetite.

3. Cognitive Reactions

  • Confusion or difficulty concentrating: Trouble focusing or making decisions.
  • Intrusive thoughts or flashbacks: Reliving the traumatic event as if it were happening again.
  • Memory problems: Difficulty recalling parts of the trauma or details surrounding the event.

4. Behavioral Reactions

  • Avoidance: Steering clear of reminders, places, people, or activities associated with the trauma.
  • Withdrawal: Isolating from loved ones, social situations, or activities once enjoyed.
  • Risky behaviors: Increased substance use, reckless driving, or other harmful behaviors.
  • Hypervigilance: Constantly feeling “on edge” or scanning the environment for potential threats.

5. Relational Changes

  • Difficulties in relationships: Strain in personal connections, feeling disconnected or misunderstood by others.
  • Trust issues: Difficulty trusting people, even those close to you.

6. Spiritual or Existential Changes

  • Loss of faith: Questioning or losing belief in a higher power or life’s meaning.
  • Sense of isolation: Feeling detached from others or the world around you.

Do these sound familiar? Trauma often goes unrecognized for years, especially when it was normalized in childhood. Like Jenny, many people don’t begin to fully process the impact of their experiences until much later in life. But recognizing the signs of trauma is the first step toward healing.

Practical Tips for Healing

While professional intervention is often helpful, there are several things you can do to start your healing journey on your own. Here are some practical, self-guided steps to help you unlearn toxic patterns and nurture your emotional well-being:

  1. Practice Self-Compassion
    Healing begins with self-compassion. Acknowledge that what you experienced wasn’t your fault, and be gentle with yourself as you navigate the healing process. Challenge negative self-talk and replace it with words of kindness. A simple practice is to speak to yourself the way you would comfort a close friend going through the same struggles.
  2. Start Journaling
    Writing down your thoughts and feelings is a powerful way to process trauma. When you put your experiences on paper, it can help you make sense of emotions that feel overwhelming. Journaling can also help you track your progress, recognize patterns, and release suppressed emotions.
  3. Set Healthy Boundaries
    One of the most important steps in healing from toxic family systems is learning how to set boundaries. This includes distancing yourself from people who may trigger your trauma or perpetuate unhealthy patterns. Be clear with yourself and others about what you need to feel safe and supported.
  4. Engage in Mindfulness and Meditation
    Trauma often leaves you feeling disconnected from your body and the present moment. Mindfulness and meditation practices can help you reconnect. Try simple breathing exercises, guided meditations, or yoga to reduce anxiety and bring yourself back to the present.
  5. Educate Yourself About Trauma
    Understanding how trauma works can empower you to heal. Read books, listen to podcasts, or watch educational videos that delve into the nature of trauma and its effects on the brain. By understanding the root causes of your feelings and behaviors, you can begin to dismantle toxic patterns more effectively.
  6. Foster Supportive Relationships
    Seek out friends or community groups where you feel safe, heard, and supported. Healing doesn’t have to be a solo journey—finding people who can uplift you during tough times can make a huge difference.
  7. Create a Routine for Self-Care
    Trauma can often disrupt our sense of stability. Create a routine that includes self-care activities you enjoy, whether it’s taking a bath, going for a walk, or spending time with loved ones. Having a consistent routine can ground you and give you a sense of control over your environment.
  8. Challenge Negative Beliefs
    Over time, trauma can shape your beliefs about yourself and the world. Challenge these negative beliefs by replacing them with affirmations and positive truths. For example, if you struggle with feeling unworthy, remind yourself daily that you deserve love, peace, and happiness.

These steps can help you start the journey of healing on your own, but if you find that your trauma feels too overwhelming to handle alone, it’s okay to seek professional support. Therapy or counseling may become necessary, but it’s always your choice and at your own pace.

Healing: Self-Compassion and Unlearning Toxic Patterns

Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and the courage to unlearn toxic patterns that were ingrained in childhood. It’s not easy, and it takes time—but it’s possible. One of the most important things to understand is that healing doesn’t happen overnight. Just like Jenny’s journey, it can take years to undo the damage caused by toxic family systems.

This is where self-compassion comes in. Healing means giving yourself the grace to process those emotions, the patience to unlearn what no longer serves you, and the belief that you are not defined by your past. You are worthy of healing and happiness—no matter how long it takes to get there.

Belief in Yourself: Learning from Forrest’s Lesson

One of the greatest lessons from Forrest Gump is the power of belief. Forrest’s success was rooted in his mother’s teachings: he was no less capable than anyone else. This unwavering belief carried him through life’s challenges and opened doors for him that others thought impossible.

Healing from trauma means relearning how to believe in yourself. It means understanding that even if your past is filled with pain or confusion, your future doesn’t have to be. Trauma often clouds our sense of self-worth, but just like Forrest, you have the power to build a life full of meaning, love, and success—no matter what your starting point was.

Moving Forward: Reclaiming Your Story

If Forrest Gump teaches us anything, it’s that healing is possible. Whether you identify more with Forrest’s belief in himself or Jenny’s longer, harder journey to self-acceptance, know this: you have the power to reclaim your story.

You are not defined by your trauma. You are defined by your resilience and your courage to heal. Every step forward, no matter how small, is a victory. Be patient with yourself. The healing journey may be long, but the peace, self-love, and happiness you’re working toward are worth every step.


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Breaking Free from Repetitive Negative Thoughts After Trauma

Trauma changes the way we think. After going through something painful, it’s not uncommon for discouraging thoughts to become automatic, replaying in your mind like a broken record. These thoughts often resurface in moments of stress or even minor inconvenience, and they can feel overwhelming. But here’s the good news—you can regain control. It may not be easy, but it is possible, and you don’t have to fight this battle alone.

In this article, I want to explore why these thoughts happen, how they affect us, and most importantly, share practical tips on how to break the cycle. Remember, healing is a journey, not a race. Take this process one step at a time, and be kind to yourself along the way.

Why Do Negative Thoughts Become Repetitive?

After trauma, your brain may feel stuck in “survival mode.” Repeated negative thoughts can serve as a protective mechanism—your brain tries to keep you prepared for the worst. Unfortunately, this means that even when you’re safe, your mind may convince you that danger or failure is just around the corner. This habit becomes automatic because your brain is used to it, and it feels like the easiest way to cope with any threat, no matter how small.

The problem is that these thoughts can start to overshadow everything else. Even on good days, a small inconvenience can trigger the same harmful patterns, convincing you that you’ll never be enough, that things will never get better, or that you’re destined for more pain.

How to Recognize Automatic Negative Thoughts

The first step to breaking free from these thoughts is recognizing them. Sometimes they’re so automatic that you might not even notice them right away. Here are a few signs:

  • Self-criticism at small mistakes. Do you immediately think, “I’m such an idiot” or “I can’t do anything right” when something minor goes wrong?
  • Catastrophizing. Do your thoughts jump to the worst-case scenario? For example, a mistake at work leads you to believe you’ll lose your job.
  • Black-and-white thinking. Do you find yourself thinking in extremes? It’s either “I’m a total failure” or “I’m the best,” with no middle ground.

Practical Tips to Combat Repetitive Negative Thoughts

  1. Challenge the Thought

When a negative thought enters your mind, ask yourself: “Is this thought true?” Often, we accept negative thoughts as facts when they’re just feelings. Instead of allowing them to control your actions, gently challenge their accuracy.

Example: If the thought “I’ll never be successful” comes up, counter it by recalling times when you’ve succeeded, even in small ways. Remind yourself of your progress. Write down moments when you’ve overcome challenges. If you keep a journal of these moments, you’ll have proof to look back on when doubt creeps in.

2. Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness helps you become aware of your thoughts without being consumed by them. When a negative thought arises, don’t push it away—that often makes it stronger. Instead, acknowledge it. Say to yourself, “I notice I’m having the thought that I’m not good enough.” This can distance you from the thought, helping you see that it’s just that—a thought, not a fact.

Practical Exercise: Set aside a few minutes each day to focus on your breath. When thoughts arise (as they naturally will), gently bring your attention back to your breath. Over time, this practice can help you recognize when negative thoughts are taking over and give you the space to choose how to respond.

3. Use Positive Affirmations

After trauma, it’s easy to forget your worth. Repeated affirmations can help rebuild self-esteem and rewire your brain to focus on more positive beliefs. The key is to choose affirmations that feel authentic to you. Start with small, believable statements.

Example: “I am worthy of love and care,” “I am resilient,” or “I can learn from my mistakes.” Repeat these affirmations in the mirror, write them down, or even set reminders on your phone.

4. Break the Thought Pattern with Action

Sometimes, it helps to take physical action to disrupt the cycle of negative thoughts. Doing something as simple as going for a walk, calling a friend, or starting a creative project can interrupt the mental loop and give your mind a break.

Practical Tip: Keep a list of activities that bring you joy or calm. When negative thoughts become overwhelming, refer to this list and choose something to focus your energy on. The act of doing something different, no matter how small, can shift your mindset.

5. Reframe Setbacks as Opportunities

Negative thoughts often stem from viewing challenges as failures. But what if you saw setbacks as opportunities to learn and grow instead? This shift in perspective can help you view yourself with more compassion and remind you that perfection is not the goal—progress is.

Example: If you miss a deadline or make a mistake, instead of thinking, “I’ll never get this right,” try asking, “What can I learn from this situation? How can I approach it differently next time?”

6. Develop a Support System

You don’t have to go through this alone. Surrounding yourself with supportive people can make a huge difference in how you handle negative thoughts. Whether it’s a trusted friend, a therapist, or an online community, having people who understand your journey can help you see your situation more clearly and remind you that you’re not alone.

The Power of Patience and Persistence

Changing your thought patterns takes time. Be patient with yourself as you unlearn these old habits and practice healthier ways of thinking. There will be days when the negative thoughts seem stronger than ever, and that’s okay. Progress isn’t about perfection; it’s about persistence. Every time you recognize a negative thought, challenge it, and choose to think differently, you are reclaiming control over your mind.

Remember, healing is a process, and every small step you take matters. You are worthy of the peace and joy you seek, no matter how often those discouraging thoughts try to convince you otherwise. Keep going—you’ve got this.


Final Thoughts: Believe in Your Progress

Repetitive negative thoughts after trauma are common, but they don’t define you. By acknowledging these thoughts, challenging them, and taking active steps to reframe them, you can start to create a new, more positive mental landscape. Above all, remember that you’re capable of growth and that every effort you make towards healing brings you closer to the peace you deserve.

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History Law and Justice

Unveiling the Shadowed History of Mental Health Care in the U.S.: A Journey from Oppression to Empowerment

Hey there, mental health enthusiasts and curious minds alike! Let’s dive into the labyrinth of the American mental health care system—a realm steeped in a complex history of oppression, bias, and inequalities. Buckle up as we unravel the layers of its past and glimpse into its current state.

An abandoned mental asylum, which is now outlawed due to their cruel and oppressive treatment of mental health patients.
An abandoned mental asylum – Asylums were once the only treatment sites for people with mental illness, but have been outlawed due to excessive cruelty.

Imagine this: a time when the mental health care system wasn’t a beacon of support and healing but rather a tool of oppression. Yes, you read that right. Throughout history, this system has been entangled with prejudices that seeped into its very foundations.

In the archives of diagnostic manuals like the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), you’ll stumble upon terms like ‘drapetomania,’ a so-called mental illness pathologizing enslaved individuals who attempted to escape, or ‘hysteria,’ a diagnosis predominantly applied to women that did not adhere to rigid gender roles. And let’s not forget the classification of homosexuality as a mental disorder until shockingly recent times.

Fast forward to the present, and the legacy of this biased history still lingers. Unequal access to quality mental health care persists, starkly evident in the disproportionate misdiagnoses of Black individuals with conditions like schizophrenia or oppositional defiant disorder due to systemic biases among providers. Many providers are not taught about racism and its effects on mental health, so when a patient describes racist incidents when they are followed around in a department store, for example, they label the patient as simply paranoid—-a symptom of schizophrenia, or simply lacking respect for authority—a symptom of oppositional defiant disorder. “Gender Dysphoria” is a mental illness classified within the current edition of the DSM, as pathologizing non hetereo-sexualities is the only way for those that experience psychological distress due to discovering this part of themselves to get care via insurance. Finally, it is still very common for women’s issues to be dismissed by providers due to political polarization.

Abuse within psychiatric facilities remains an unfortunate reality, often shrouded in silence. The American Psychological Association, the governing body of mental health care in the U.S., has been criticized for its sluggish responses to these pressing issues, leaving many feeling unheard and unsupported. In my own personal experience, I was severely discouraged from seeking a master’s degree in a mental health related field because when I was researching graduate schools, all of the facilities they sent students to do field work at were awash with employee complaints about patient abuse. I found these complaints on popular employment sites like Glassdoor and Indeed in 2021.

Further, let’s talk money. The current mental health care system is very profitable, which is why there is very slow reform taking place. The pharmaceutical industry rakes in billions, and while medications can be beneficial, their rampant use often raises eyebrows. Therapy is also very expensive, usually costing hundreds per session. While insurance can cover costs, the practices of insurance companies tend to uphold the more abusive and exploitative aspects of mental health care.

Are there other effective alternatives? Absolutely! The World Health Organization champions a pyramid framework emphasizing self-care and informal community support as crucial components of mental health care. However, the American Psychological Association has made very little effort in aligning their practices with this framework.

Here’s the bombshell: just like other systems, such as the prison industrial complex or capitalism, the mental health care landscape can be exploitative, disproportionately affecting marginalized groups. But fear not! Knowledge is power, and understanding our rights and options can be our shield.

Empowerment comes from education. Learning about mental health and illness equips us to navigate this system, helping us find the best resources and advocate for ourselves. It’s crucial not to trust a single mental health practitioner blindly but to seek varied perspectives and options that align with our needs and values.

Remember, mental health care is a necessity, but acknowledging its flaws is key to protecting ourselves and others. Self-care, community support, and informed choices are powerful tools on our journey toward holistic well-being.

So, here’s to shining a light on the shadows of mental health care history and paving a path toward a more inclusive, supportive, and empowering future! Keep exploring, stay informed, and let’s continue this conversation together.

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Self-Care

Embracing Self-Care: Your Essential Mental Health Toolkit

In our fast-paced world, we often overlook the fundamental aspect of mental health care: self-care. The World Health Organization acknowledges self-care as the cornerstone of mental health well-being. It’s more than just a buzzword; it’s a lifeline that’s crucial for everyone, especially for marginalized communities facing systemic challenges.

When it comes to mental health, self-care isn’t merely about bubble baths or occasional indulgences; it’s a profound act of self-preservation and empowerment. For marginalized groups like BIPOC communities and neurodivergent individuals, self-care serves as a shield against oppressive structures and biases ingrained in formal healthcare systems. It’s a means to reclaim autonomy, to decant the opinions that may undermine their lived experiences.

So, what exactly is self-care in the realm of mental health? It’s about establishing a toolkit of practices that nurture your mind, body, and spirit, allowing you to navigate life’s twists and turns with resilience. Here’s a list of fundamental self-care strategies tailored to help individuals with mental illnesses maintain their well-being:

1. Establish a Routine: Consistency breeds stability. Craft a daily routine that includes regular sleep patterns, meals, exercise, and relaxation.

2. Mindfulness and Meditation: Practice mindfulness techniques or meditation to center yourself, focusing on the present moment and easing anxious thoughts.

3. Physical Activity: Engage in exercises you enjoy, whether it’s yoga, dancing, walking, or any physical activity that boosts endorphins and reduces stress.

4. Healthy Eating Habits: Nourish your body with balanced meals. Opt for nutritious foods that provide sustained energy and support overall well-being.

5. Quality Sleep: Prioritize a restful sleep routine. Create a calming bedtime ritual and ensure a comfortable sleep environment.

6. Limit Screen Time: Take breaks from screens. Set boundaries for technology use to prevent overwhelm and mental exhaustion.

7. Seek Support: Cultivate a support network. Surround yourself with understanding friends, family, or seek professional help when needed.

8. Creative Outlets: Explore creative expressions like painting, writing, or music. These outlets can serve as cathartic releases for emotions.

9. Setting Boundaries: Learn to say no. Set boundaries to protect your mental health and prevent burnout from over-committing.

10. Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Embrace imperfections, practice self-compassion, and avoid self-criticism.

Remember, self-care isn’t selfish; it’s a fundamental act of self-preservation. Prioritizing your mental health through these strategies is an act of empowerment, especially for those navigating the complexities of societal barriers. By embracing self-care, we not only nourish our minds but also cultivate resilience to thrive in a world that often challenges our well-being.

Let’s advocate for a culture where self-care isn’t a luxury but a necessity for all, regardless of background or circumstance. It’s a step towards a healthier, more compassionate world—one where mental health care isn’t just an afterthought but a priority woven into the fabric of our daily lives.

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Law and Justice

Demystifying Complaint Grounds: A Confidence Boost in Therapy Rights

Hey there! Let’s dive into something crucial: understanding your rights and navigating discomfort during therapy. I’ve journeyed through the mental health care system myself, and I get it—the prevalence of malpractice isn’t cool, and it’s time we shed some light on this issue!

Therapists often forget to share info about our rights or how to report when therapy feels off. Feeling lost and uncertain during therapy, I realized the lack of guidance on reporting malpractice. Discovering these procedures as an adult made me wish therapists would share this essential info upfront.

Navigating mental health care can be a maze, especially for marginalized communities. Therapist missteps aren’t uncommon. Recognizing these experiences is crucial in a flawed system where folks from marginalized backgrounds face more hurdles to receive proper care. It’s time we acknowledge this reality and work towards change.

Recognizing warning signs in therapy is like having a superpower—it helps us spot what doesn’t feel right. Let’s delve into this, identifying what might signal discomfort during therapy and empowering ourselves to address it head-on.

Consider reporting your therapist if you experience any of these things:

  1. Feeling Weird Vibes: If your therapist hits on you, gets too touchy, or makes you feel uncomfortable by crossing that personal boundary, that’s a big red flag.
  2. Applying Pressure: Imagine if your therapist tries to rope you into some side gig or personal thing that has nothing to do with therapy? Not cool.
  3. Boundary Blurring: Your therapist stepping over the line, using their position in a way that doesn’t feel right, or making things too personal? That’s crossing boundaries you shouldn’t have to deal with.
  4. Secrets Leaking: Your therapist spilling your secrets without your permission? Not okay. Our stuff is meant to stay between us and them.
  5. Therapist Ghosting: Imagine your therapist suddenly vanishing without notice. Not cool, right? You deserve a heads-up and some guidance to find another therapist.
  6. Unqualified Services: Say your therapist tries to play doctor or offers something totally outside their expertise, like giving medical advice? Not their lane to be in.
  7. Sketchy Services: What if your therapy sessions start feeling like a bizarre experiment or just plain unsafe? That’s not what therapy’s about.
  8. Illegal Stuff: Imagine your therapist involves you in shady or illegal activities. That’s a huge no-no, whether it’s fraud or anything else that’s not right.
  9. Mystery Actions: Your therapist doing things without explaining or making you part of an experiment without giving you a heads-up? That’s just not fair.
  10. Discriminatory Speech or Actions: If your therapist makes comments or acts in ways that are clearly discriminatory or hurtful, that’s absolutely not okay.

Here’s the thing: trust your gut! If any of these scenarios resonate with you, it’s okay to feel uneasy. You have every right to feel safe and respected during therapy.

Now, let’s take some power back! Reach out to someone you trust, keep notes if things seem off, and don’t hesitate to contact your local licensing board. They’re the folks who can help you navigate the process of filing a complaint against a therapist.

Remember, you’re not alone in this. By speaking up and taking action, you’re not just standing up for yourself, but also helping make therapy a better and safer space for everyone. You’ve got this! 🌟