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Resisting the Pull: How Boundaries and Empowerment Counter Systemic Oppression

A New Dawn: Reclaiming our Power—One Boundary at a Time

Do you ever feel like trouble is drawn to you, even when you’ve done nothing to invite it? For so many of us, especially those who face systemic oppression, it can feel like the weight of the world is pressing down, constantly reminding us of all the ways we’re expected to fail. Society tells us, in subtle and not-so-subtle ways, that we are less deserving, less capable, and that our struggles are our fault. But while oppression is very real, it doesn’t have to define our lives. Many of us live fulfilled lives, not because the system isn’t oppressive, but because we refuse to internalize those harmful messages. We’ve learned to set boundaries, assert our worth, and reject the learned helplessness that these systems try to instill in us.

This isn’t to say that personal empowerment alone can dismantle systemic inequality. It takes both individual strength and collective action to create real change. But by standing firm in who we are and what we deserve, we begin the process of not just surviving, but thriving. Let’s explore how we can use boundaries and empowerment to resist oppression and, together, create transformative change.

1. Acknowledging Structural Inequality: The Roots of Oppression

Let’s start by acknowledging the reality many of us face. Structural inequality—whether it’s based on race, gender, class, or other factors—is designed to keep power in the hands of a few. It reinforces the idea that people like us should just accept our place at the bottom, internalizing the belief that our struggles are our fault. This learned helplessness tells us that no matter what we do, things won’t change, so why bother trying?

But recognizing this for what it is—a tactic of oppression—is a powerful first step. We are not broken, and our hardships aren’t because we deserve them. These systems were created to maintain control, not to reflect our inherent worth. And when we begin to see that, we can start setting boundaries and saying, “No, this is not my fault, and I will not accept this treatment.”

2. The Role of Boundaries and Self-Empowerment: Rejecting the Narrative

One of the most important ways we push back is by setting boundaries. Boundaries protect us, reminding ourselves and others that we won’t tolerate mistreatment or internalize negative messages. Self-empowerment comes from recognizing that, yes, oppression exists, but it doesn’t get to tell us who we are or how we live our lives.

Take the example of Rosa Parks. We know her story as the woman who refused to give up her seat on a segregated bus, sparking the Montgomery Bus Boycott. But what’s so powerful about her story isn’t just the act itself—it’s what it represents. As a Black woman living under Jim Crow laws, Rosa Parks was surrounded by systemic barriers designed to make her feel less worthy. She was constantly told she was a second-class citizen, but she didn’t accept that. When she refused to move, she wasn’t just standing up to one bus driver; she was rejecting the entire system that tried to tell her she wasn’t deserving of respect.

What makes Rosa Parks’ story so compelling is that she knew she deserved better, even in the face of overwhelming oppression. She set a boundary that day, not because she believed the system would instantly change, but because she knew her own worth. And that’s what we do, too. We set boundaries to remind ourselves and others that, no matter what the system says, we deserve better.

3. Collective Resistance and the Power of Community: Transformative Action

But personal empowerment is just one piece of the puzzle. Real change happens when we come together and reject the harmful narratives that systemic oppression pushes on us. When we organize as a community, we remind each other of our shared worth and push back against the systems trying to hold us down.

The civil rights movement is a perfect example of this. Rosa Parks’ act of defiance was just the beginning of the Montgomery Bus Boycott, a yearlong protest that united an entire community in standing up to segregation. It wasn’t just about one person refusing to give up her seat—it was about an entire community coming together to say, “We deserve better, and we won’t accept second-class citizenship.”

This kind of collective action is powerful because it takes our individual strength and amplifies it. When we come together, we create a force that’s much harder for oppressive systems to ignore. And that’s where real transformation happens—not just in the lives of individuals, but in society as a whole.

4. Mindset as a Tool, Not a Cure: Balancing Personal and Collective Efforts

It’s important to remember that having a strong mindset and setting boundaries are powerful tools, but they’re not a cure for oppression. Systemic inequality exists at a structural level, and no amount of personal empowerment will completely dismantle it. However, what we can do is avoid falling into the trap of learned helplessness.

When we set boundaries and refuse to accept harmful narratives, we create space for ourselves to live more fulfilled lives. And when we combine that individual empowerment with collective action, we start to chip away at the systems that oppress us. It’s a balance—taking care of ourselves while also working together to create a better, more just world.

Conclusion: Turning Empowerment into Transformation

Systemic oppression is heavy, but it doesn’t have to define us. When we set boundaries, reject harmful messages, and claim our worth, we begin the process of empowerment. And when we come together as a community to reject the narratives that try to keep us down, we create the possibility for true transformation. Rosa Parks’ legacy reminds us that personal empowerment, when paired with collective action, can change history. And while the fight against structural inequality continues, by standing strong in who we are and what we deserve, we take the first steps toward a more just and fulfilling future—for ourselves, and for everyone.

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Overcoming Hopelessness After Trauma: Focusing on What’s in Your Control

Embracing hope with open hands: a reminder that even in the toughest times, we can nurture the seeds of healing within us.

Life after trauma can feel like an endless loop, especially when you escape one toxic situation only to find yourself in another. It’s a unique struggle—where you’ve done nothing to invite trouble, and yet, it finds you again. Even more disheartening is when the people or systems meant to support you—therapists, doctors, social workers, clergy members, or government officials—end up adding to the pain. This can happen for various reasons beyond your control, whether due to structural inequality, system failures, or a pervasive lack of positivity in certain areas.

As someone who’s been in therapy since middle school, I’ve seen firsthand how the people we turn to for help can sometimes fail us—deeply and repeatedly. I’ve been in rooms where therapists degraded me, talked down to me, and made wild assumptions about my character. They gaslit me about my own experiences, laughed at my trauma, and made me feel smaller every time I left. And for what? What good did it do me to recount those traumatic events with them? I began to feel hopeless—because if even the experts couldn’t help me, where did that leave me?

But here’s the truth: Even when we face such challenges, we have the power to reclaim our journey. In this article, I want to share how I’m learning to make peace with these experiences and, more importantly, how to shift my focus to what’s within my control. I believe deeply in our own capabilities—and I want you to believe in yours, too.

The Challenge of Trusting Systems That Fail Us

It’s tough to describe how disheartening it can be when the very systems or professionals you’re supposed to trust let you down. Therapists, social workers, and doctors are trained to support people, but sometimes they fall short. Sometimes, they even become part of the toxicity we’re trying to escape.

This can happen for many reasons. Structural inequality plays a big role—people from marginalized backgrounds often experience subpar treatment or discrimination, even from supposed “helpers.” Underfunded systems or burned-out professionals also contribute. In some cases, I think it’s just that the world around us hasn’t cultivated the right kind of support we need—especially in certain areas where positivity and empathy seem lacking.

In my case, I could feel my mental health worsening as I encountered therapists who didn’t listen, laughed at my pain, or just flat-out didn’t believe me. I realized that finding someone who could truly help me would be an uphill battle, especially since the most skilled therapists often don’t accept insurance, leaving those who do to fall into patterns of exploitative care. I began to wonder: What’s the point of trusting these systems?

Taking Back Control: Focusing on What You Can Change

So, how do we overcome this hopelessness? How do we rebuild a sense of control when the world around us feels out of our hands? The answer lies in exactly that—focusing on what is in our hands.

I’ve been through it. A lot. And it led me on a constant search for the one—the person or therapist who could help me heal and make everything better. I didn’t believe I could do anything myself, despite all the evidence of my capability. That mindset, that search for external validation and healing, was problematic. Therapy can sometimes amplify that feeling if we come into it believing the therapist has all the answers.

But the truth is, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to healing. Therapists are not all-knowing or all-powerful. They each have their own limited expertise. So, it’s crucial not to put them on a pedestal. It’s up to you to choose someone who’s a good fit and to walk away from those who aren’t. The real healing happens when you recognize your active role in the process. You are fully capable of doing that healing work—even without someone else’s help. You have more power than you realize, and focusing on what you can control is the first step toward taking it back.

Here are a few steps that have helped me regain my power, and I hope they’ll inspire you, too:

1. Set Boundaries with Service Providers

One of the most empowering things you can do is recognize when a service provider is not meeting your needs and walk away. If you feel disrespected, belittled, or gaslit, know that you do not have to stay in that dynamic. It’s okay to stop seeing a therapist, switch doctors, or fire a lawyer if they aren’t respecting your experience.

I know how difficult this can be—especially when it feels like your options are limited—but every time you assert your boundaries, you’re taking a powerful step toward reclaiming your life.

2. Educate Yourself

We live in a time where knowledge is at our fingertips, and that’s a gift. You don’t have to feel completely dependent on gatekeepers like therapists or lawyers anymore. With technology and AI, you can educate yourself on mental health techniques, legal rights, or coping strategies without waiting for someone to tell you what’s possible.

Many therapeutic approaches—like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or mindfulness—can be learned through self-study. There are countless free resources, apps, and forums where you can build your own toolkit for managing your mental health. The more you educate yourself, the better you’ll be at recognizing when someone in a professional role isn’t living up to what they should be providing.

3. Build Your Own Emotional Toolkit

Creating your own set of tools for managing emotions can be a game-changer. This could mean different things for different people, but for me, it includes journaling, practicing mindfulness, and using art and music as therapeutic outlets. Find what works for you, and build those habits into your daily routine.

Whether it’s meditation, grounding exercises, or something as simple as going for a walk, focusing on tools you can use anytime, anywhere, gives you a sense of agency. It’s a way to remind yourself that no matter what’s happening around you, you have resources within you.

4. Mindset Shifts: From Powerlessness to Empowerment

A big part of overcoming hopelessness is reshaping how you view yourself. Yes, systems fail, people fail, and sometimes, the world feels deeply unfair—but that doesn’t mean you’re powerless.

Start by reframing your thoughts around agency. Instead of saying, “I need this therapist to fix me,” try shifting it to, “I am actively participating in my healing process.” Instead of feeling dependent on outside help, start believing in your capability to grow and heal—on your own terms.

5. Find or Build Community Support

While it’s true that systems can fail us, we can never underestimate the power of community. Whether through peer support groups, online forums, or local organizations, there are always people out there who understand your struggles and want to support your growth.

These communities are often filled with individuals who have faced similar challenges, and they can provide solidarity, encouragement, and practical advice. If you can’t find a group that feels right, consider starting one. You might be surprised by how many people share your experience and are looking for connection.

6. Recognize the Small Wins

Healing doesn’t happen all at once. But it does happen, in small, beautiful ways. Every time you set a boundary, walk away from toxicity, or take care of yourself in a meaningful way, you’re making progress.

When the big victories seem out of reach, celebrate the small ones. Each step toward healing—no matter how small—is a reminder that you’re in control of your journey.

Conclusion: You Are Capable, and You Are Worthy

I want to leave you with this: Even when systems fail, even when people fail, you are not a failure. You are capable, worthy, and equipped to navigate your healing process. I know firsthand how hard it is to overcome hopelessness, but I also know how powerful it is to reclaim your sense of control, step by step.

With knowledge, boundaries, and belief in yourself, you can move forward—even when it feels like the world is against you. And remember, you are not alone in this journey. There are countless others who have faced similar challenges, and by sharing our stories and supporting each other, we become stronger.

Healing is not about fixing everything that’s broken. It’s about discovering the power that’s already within you.

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History Law and Justice

Unveiling the Shadowed History of Mental Health Care in the U.S.: A Journey from Oppression to Empowerment

Hey there, mental health enthusiasts and curious minds alike! Let’s dive into the labyrinth of the American mental health care system—a realm steeped in a complex history of oppression, bias, and inequalities. Buckle up as we unravel the layers of its past and glimpse into its current state.

An abandoned mental asylum, which is now outlawed due to their cruel and oppressive treatment of mental health patients.
An abandoned mental asylum – Asylums were once the only treatment sites for people with mental illness, but have been outlawed due to excessive cruelty.

Imagine this: a time when the mental health care system wasn’t a beacon of support and healing but rather a tool of oppression. Yes, you read that right. Throughout history, this system has been entangled with prejudices that seeped into its very foundations.

In the archives of diagnostic manuals like the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), you’ll stumble upon terms like ‘drapetomania,’ a so-called mental illness pathologizing enslaved individuals who attempted to escape, or ‘hysteria,’ a diagnosis predominantly applied to women that did not adhere to rigid gender roles. And let’s not forget the classification of homosexuality as a mental disorder until shockingly recent times.

Fast forward to the present, and the legacy of this biased history still lingers. Unequal access to quality mental health care persists, starkly evident in the disproportionate misdiagnoses of Black individuals with conditions like schizophrenia or oppositional defiant disorder due to systemic biases among providers. Many providers are not taught about racism and its effects on mental health, so when a patient describes racist incidents when they are followed around in a department store, for example, they label the patient as simply paranoid—-a symptom of schizophrenia, or simply lacking respect for authority—a symptom of oppositional defiant disorder. “Gender Dysphoria” is a mental illness classified within the current edition of the DSM, as pathologizing non hetereo-sexualities is the only way for those that experience psychological distress due to discovering this part of themselves to get care via insurance. Finally, it is still very common for women’s issues to be dismissed by providers due to political polarization.

Abuse within psychiatric facilities remains an unfortunate reality, often shrouded in silence. The American Psychological Association, the governing body of mental health care in the U.S., has been criticized for its sluggish responses to these pressing issues, leaving many feeling unheard and unsupported. In my own personal experience, I was severely discouraged from seeking a master’s degree in a mental health related field because when I was researching graduate schools, all of the facilities they sent students to do field work at were awash with employee complaints about patient abuse. I found these complaints on popular employment sites like Glassdoor and Indeed in 2021.

Further, let’s talk money. The current mental health care system is very profitable, which is why there is very slow reform taking place. The pharmaceutical industry rakes in billions, and while medications can be beneficial, their rampant use often raises eyebrows. Therapy is also very expensive, usually costing hundreds per session. While insurance can cover costs, the practices of insurance companies tend to uphold the more abusive and exploitative aspects of mental health care.

Are there other effective alternatives? Absolutely! The World Health Organization champions a pyramid framework emphasizing self-care and informal community support as crucial components of mental health care. However, the American Psychological Association has made very little effort in aligning their practices with this framework.

Here’s the bombshell: just like other systems, such as the prison industrial complex or capitalism, the mental health care landscape can be exploitative, disproportionately affecting marginalized groups. But fear not! Knowledge is power, and understanding our rights and options can be our shield.

Empowerment comes from education. Learning about mental health and illness equips us to navigate this system, helping us find the best resources and advocate for ourselves. It’s crucial not to trust a single mental health practitioner blindly but to seek varied perspectives and options that align with our needs and values.

Remember, mental health care is a necessity, but acknowledging its flaws is key to protecting ourselves and others. Self-care, community support, and informed choices are powerful tools on our journey toward holistic well-being.

So, here’s to shining a light on the shadows of mental health care history and paving a path toward a more inclusive, supportive, and empowering future! Keep exploring, stay informed, and let’s continue this conversation together.